One Way Street

Why does the 'gender journey' only go in the direction of Trans?

Did you ever notice the ‘gender journey’ only goes in one direction? The final destination is always the same place: Transtown.

This was on my mind recently, as Marlon Wayans became the latest Hollywood parent with a trans kid. In the name of recognizing Pride Month (and probably because he has a new special streaming), Wayans sent out not one, but a string of rainbow-filled Instagram posts.

I don’t follow Wayans. I discovered this accidentally, by seeing a tweet about Wayans being attacked by homophobes for supporting his son during Pride Month. Marlon Wayans has a gay son? I thought to myself. That was news to me. So I went over to Instagram to check it out.

The first post is Wayans shirtless, draped in a rainbow flag.

This didn’t answer my question. I see he is supporting his ‘LGBTQ+ peoples’ but the rest is unclear. He states for the record that he is STRAIGHT and a CISGENDER male, according to his child. The message is confusing. (He remembers to mention his special and give credit for his shoelaces, however.)

The next post doesn’t clear anything up.

Apparently responding to backlash, he states he is ‘a father of a child in the LGBTQ+ community’. Can you be more specific about which letter you’re wholeheartedly supporting? I wondered. Yes, it matters. (He remembered to plug that Amazon Prime special again, though!)

The next pic had a scary rainbow mask and the requisite ‘Love Wins’ and ‘Love is Love’ (two phrases which have lost all meaning) buttons.

The caption:

That’s 3 for 3 with no clarity, and another plug for the special.

The 4th post seemed to shed some light:

Now he’s not just responding to the commenters, but specifically calling them homophobic. OK, so he does have a gay kid, I thought. And he’s defending his child. Right?

The next post was a screenshot of a reply he made to a commenter that he was apparently particularly proud of:

Yikes. Well, that is not helpful. And I still have no clear answers. The caption for this one was:

It wasn’t until the 6TH POST that the word ‘trans son’ appeared, and it was a repost of another account reporting on his previous posts.

I was already tired of the whole thing at this point, but I had to get some more answers so I did some Googling. What I learned is that Marlon Wayans has a lesbian daughter who is now identifying as trans. Here are some screenshots of articles from 2019:

Apparently, she came out to him at age 14 telling him, ‘Dad, I kissed a girl and I think I liked it.’ I missed this story in 2019, but Wayans was active on Instagram then, too:

This whole situation is a mess and here’s why:

• Marlon Wayans should be given credit for being a supportive parent, but he doesn’t even know what he’s supporting. This is evident not just in his vague Instagram posts, but in an interview with the Hollywood Reporter about the posts:

So let’s talk now about your own journey as a parent. How many children do you have?

I have three. Two boys and a little girl.

And Kai, the eldest, is transgender?

Yes. Nonbinary female.

Wayan’s youngest is a daughter born in 2022, so that’s the little girl he’s referring to. The ‘two boys’ are his son and daughter…who he later refers to as a ‘nonbinary female’. Don’t words mean anything anymore? And to be fair, Wayans is probably confused because his daughter is confused…it sounds like she’s grappling with being a butch lesbian, and why wouldn’t she be? It may be the first letter, but it’s probably the lowest rung on the LGBTQ+ ladder.

• Wayans wrote ‘I wouldn’t change one effing thing about you’ to his lesbian daughter in 2019, but now is (apparently) 100% on board with her transing the gay away.

• When Wayans blasted his commenters for homophobic remarks…he was right. I went back and read some of them. The commenters WERE making homophobic remarks, because people associate ‘Pride’ with ‘gay’, and they were making anti-gay comments. But here’s the problem: Wayans wasn’t supporting ‘gay’; he was supporting ‘trans’. And there is nothing more homophobic than telling a lesbian she’s really a man. Wayan’s ‘support’ rings hollow, because he’s promoting the worst form of homophobia.

• The ‘LGBTQ+’ groups celebrate this ‘support of the community’, the press fawns over it, and brainwashed gay people eat it up with a spoon.

Would Wayans be posting so proudly if it had gone the other way? If his daughter, who had identified as a man for years, suddenly came to the realization that she was really just a butch lesbian?

Another article about Wayans from 2019 that I found during my research revealed this:

The Haunted House star has gotten plenty of love from his celebrity peers since posting the message, including those from “Power” star La La Anthony and Gabrielle Union, whose stepson she’s raising with Dwyane Wade also recently came out as gay.

And then I went further down the rabbit hole, because this bit of info was familiar. I had heard of Dwyane Wade’s son. Here are some screenshots of articles about him, from 2019:

From the article:

Wade said that he noticed early on that his son was on a different “vibe” than his older brother, Zaire Blessing Dwyane, now 17. This forced him to have a crucial conversation with himself, he explained.

“I had to look myself in the mirror and say, ‘What if your son comes home and tells you he’s gay? What are you going to do? How are you going to be? How are you going to act?’ It ain’t about him. He knows who he is. It’s about you. Who are you?”

Aaaaaaaaaand here’s an article from this year:

Zion became Zaya. And, as you can see from the photo, the parents couldn’t be prouder.

Like a lot of kids lately (who are not the children of celebrities), Amai and Zion are on a ‘gender journey’. It’s the cute name they came up with to confuse blossoming homosexuals into transforming their sexualities into ‘identities’.

But lesbian and gay are not ‘identities’. They’re realities. In my teen era, we tried to convince ourselves we could be straight—or at the least, bi! We just knew we wanted to change. If only we could make ourselves be attracted to the opposite sex. Today’s teens are trying to convince themselves they can change to the opposite sex.

Growing up is a jumble of confusing feelings and emotions. A boy might think: I don’t relate to the other boys…I feel more comfortable being around the girls…but at the same time I’m attracted to those boys that I don’t feel comfortable around! I want to be with them but they reject me because I’m not like them…I want to be like them but every time I try, it doesn’t work…it’s easier to be with the girls…

Couple THAT with what is going on in kids’ world today—teachers/counselors/therapists are endorsing and celebrating everything ‘trans’, while being gay is seen by today’s youth as something outdated. Why wouldn’t a gay boy conclude that he is ‘really’ a straight girl? It’s more alluring, so much cooler.

Therapists ‘affirm’ sex-confused kids from the moment an opposite-sex identity is declared. No questions are asked—that’s how ‘affirmation’ works. So the possibility of detransitioning in the future is never on the table. (Also worth mentioning that transitioning is covered by insurance…but detransitioning is not.)

Let’s say this happens to a boy at a young age—9, 10, 11 years old. The child goes along with this belief for years. When the boy reaches adolescence and starts to experience attraction to other boys, at what point does the therapist say “Perhaps you’re not a girl after all. You’re actually a boy, and you’re gay.” 

The answer? Never. Because once the door is opened, the ‘affirmation’ approach does not leave this possibility. The gender journey has no off-ramps.

The ‘LGBTQIA+ Community’ fallacy makes it seem like you can—and should!—jump from one letter to another. It’s all one big happy family of identities, so your ‘journey’ takes you from one to another, right? Except for one thing: detransitioners are not included, and they’re definitely not welcome at Pride—they don’t get a letter and they’re not even included in the ‘+’. It’s a one-way street, and you’re not allowed to go back.

In a People magazine article, there is an interesting quote from Gabrielle Union about her support of ‘Zaya’:

"We try to stress character, compassion, love, acceptance and joy. That hopefully radiates from the inside out. When it comes to how she moves through the world, we try to stress there is no one way to be a woman or to be feminine."

Why can’t this ‘acceptance’ include Zion becoming comfortable as a gay young man in his male body? What if Union’s quote had read: ‘When it comes to how he moves through the world, we try to stress there is no one way to be a man or to be masculine.’

Why were Zion’s parents so readily willing and able to accept that their son was no longer a gay boy? Where did the acceptance of the gay son go? Doesn’t it seem like there was relief that they were able to ‘convert’ him to a straight girl?

I don’t think this is my paranoia, because once Zion made the transition to Zaya, Gabrielle Union tweeted a video of the child with the introduction: ‘Meet Zaya’. This serves as a kind of psychological ‘reset’; so, just in case everyone wasn’t aware—that gay boy is GONE. So glad we have this totally normal ‘daughter’ now!

Zion may have just been a simple gay boy, but ‘Zaya’ soon becomes (as described in another gushing People story) a runway model, social media influencer, fashion influencer, and magazine cover star. ‘Zaya’ gets an ad campaign with Miu Miu, a feature with the ‘Dove Self-Esteem Project’, a chat with Michelle Obama, and a runway walk gig during Paris Fashion Week (‘with her parents sitting in the front row’).

Would gay boy Zion have been offered any of these opportunities?

And I wonder…would Dwyane Wade and Gabrielle Union be supportive if ‘Zaya’ decides to detransition? If he someday announces he’s really not a girl, but just actually a homosexual male after all?

And would HRC, GLAAD, People magazine (etc. etc. etc.) celebrate this news?

It’s hard to imagine any of this happening, because I’ve never seen this kind of thing happen yet. (In the case of celebrity offspring, being trans is too lucrative. And that sends a dangerous message to regular, non-famous kids that trans is a destination.) Why be old-school gay when you can choose trans? Trans is not just a source of ‘Pride’; it’s always the END GOAL. It’s become very clear that medicalizing gay teens is one of the foremost objectives of the trans movement.

I have yet to see a post from HRC, GLAAD, Stonewall, Trevor Project, GLSEN, etc. celebrating a trans-identified person deciding that they weren’t trans after all, and discovering that they were actually just a run-of-the-mill gay man or lesbian. These organizations never mention the word ‘detransition’ at all. It’s not an option. There are no U-turns to Gayville on the ‘gender journey’.