"There is no such thing as 'living as the opposite sex." Correct. One can dress and groom according to current cultural standards for the opposite sex, but that is called dress-up. I'm a middle-aged woman and I can put on a pair of point shoes, but I am not and never will be a ballerina, even if I lost 40lbs. I don't have a ballerina's body (or training). I can wear a kimono, but I still won't be "living as a Japanese woman" woman because I'm not a Japanese woman. If this dress-up helps some, then I wish them the best, but I'm fed up with the incessant narcissism of these cult members. If you refer to yourself as trans, I don't care as that term is completely meaningless to me. Go be you and leave others alone. Gays and lesbians getting dragged into this was a huge mistake and time to cut the narcissistic loons loose.
I’ve completely lost sympathy as well and I fought for their rights and inclusion for decades. I too haven’t just known “trans” people, I’ve dated them and been friends with many for ages.
I think most gays and lesbians accept that many in society will never come to “affirm us” (deeply religious people, for example). It is their right to be able to say they believe homosexuality is a sin. Just as it is my right to say I don’t believe in God and reject religion. It is a cornerstone of democracy that we are all equal and have freedom of speech and belief.
Equal rights mean equal rights and that nobody’s rights are allowed to supersede the rights of another citizen. But this is not what trans activists have demanded from society - they have demanded that society say things like “trans women are women” when most people do not believe that humans can change sex; they have coerced many Western societies into believing in Gender Theory (an obscure philosophical belief with no basis in science) and those who do not or who question it are attacked and persecuted whilst they are given a pass for routinely issuing death threats against TERFs and saying truly vile and hateful things about others to the point of hate mongering; they show no respect for women’s rights or gay and lesbian rights; they show no respect for parental rights and have no hesitation to attack any parent, even left leaning, progressive ones as “bigoted” and “transphobic” if they do not immediately “affirm” their child’s trans identity as they encourage children to change the names they were given and to disassociate with any family member who doesn’t accept their new identities.
To earn and to be worthy of respect, one must respect others.
I’ve been saying it for years: it feels like an Orwellian nightmare where Big Brother controls thought and speech and we flush any dissenting opinions down the memory hole, along with everything we know. Right, women can have penises. Right, we should punish anyone who doesn’t agree with us or send them for reeducation.
I’ve only had one close relationship with someone who was trans. Trans activists do not want to ask me about him because they would probably cry and run away. This poor man had a sex change in the 80’s - full sexual reassignment, which at that time meant two years of therapy and a note from your psych saying you were good to go. It didn’t take long for him to regret his decision and start the devastating process of transitioning back to a man. What a disaster. This was someone who had also dedicated his life to vipassana meditation and is a deeply spiritual being, yet somehow that “feeling” was misconstrued as needing to mutilate his body. We all make mistakes.
To whom you are attracted sexually is purely subjective and therefore cannot reasonably be contested by an outside observer.
Where you decide to live your life on a spectrum of superficial, stereotypical male to female attributes (and we all do) is also purely subjective and similarly cannot be questioned.
However, your biological sex reflects an objective reality which cannot be changed by your subjective personal view and futile attempts to do so can result in serious health impacts to you as well as harms to members of the sex you are impersonating (primarily women).
Others who are grounded in objective reality should never be forced to accept your subjective version of your actual biological sex.
Finally, it's past time for the LGB community to separate themselves from the trans activists who are trying to take away the rights of women to fairness in sports and to privacy and safety in their restrooms, locker rooms and prisons. They also advocate for the chemical and surgical mutilation of children many of whom would grow up gay.
Their actions are evil and the
understandable negative reaction to the harm they are causing is spilling over to innocent people who are just going about their business, marrying and leading their lives.
I knew 'trans folk' as long ago as 1985. Realise now that two of the were profoundly damaged gay men and the third was your archetypal autogynephile. Thanks for sharing your story Gary. I was kind of riding the trans bus for a while and jumped off around three or four years ago. See if you can find Arty Morty's 'Circle of Horror' essay. On Substack a year or so ago. He deep dives into how these deluded people have a need to recruit others in order to sustain the delusion.
I have been so frustrated in recent years, WANTING to buy that one, specific, favorite product -- but not being able to make myself go to the MAC counter. I've never had any problems like this before, but this one guy... sort of a low-effort trans dude, just ginormous glitter fake eyelashes flapping atop a bedazzled fabric face mask.... I couldn't stomach buying makeup from him. I didn't know it was a "thing" with MAC everywhere. I guess I'll stick to swearing off my MAC.
This hit me right in the feels. I'm not gay, but I work in a field with a lot of people on the spectrum. I have had several deep friendships with autistic AGP men just end because I tried to gently questioned whether their transition would fix their feelings of social inadequacy. If any of those people are reading this- please reach out. I genuinely care about you still.
I had posted in one of your previous posts that the minority group of activists within the larger LGBQT community where going to go to far and cause a pushback, the kind tvat would come after all in that community. Not because the heterosexual majority hated all gays but because there's so easy wat to separate the activists from the "leave me alone and I'll leave you alone" types. And now we're seeing the start of that.
Whether it was just a joke or not and later claimed a joke because of the negative reception it got, the San Francisco Gay Men's queen acted very stupidly and arrogantly with that song bragging about gaying up people's kids and how nothing could stop them. You don't go.afyer people's kids period.
Thankfully many non-activist types like gays against groomers have shown that not all are activists trying to do tgat kind of BS that the SFGM Choir was bragging about but tha's not going to be enough anymore. Many of you are going to need to hunker down and stay at of the line if fire as best as you can until the anger dies down. Most importantly is that the majority of you have got to expel from the larger community any if these trouble makers so they aren't able to protect themselves by hiding amongst the rest of you
NOTE: UI composed the above on my phone while in line at my pharmacy thus the massive typos. I would correct it but I believe if you edit a post all the likes get reset so please excuse the verbal mess 😁
Yeah, “do you even know any trans people” has to be the dumbest response to my rejection of gender ideology.
My family tree, friend group and community as a whole are filled to the brim with every flavor of trans identifying person. This is the PNW and I don’t live under a rock. It would be easier to count up my kids’ friends who don’t identify as either trans or some flavor of queer than the “cishet normies”. Also, my sibling transitioned 20+ years ago and I was very supportive and protective of her. Part of my issue with gender ideology is seeing the toll medical transition is having on people I know and love.
Keep fighting the good fight, Gary. As an ROGD dad, I appreciate your courage, tenacity, and empathy.
"There is no such thing as 'living as the opposite sex." Correct. One can dress and groom according to current cultural standards for the opposite sex, but that is called dress-up. I'm a middle-aged woman and I can put on a pair of point shoes, but I am not and never will be a ballerina, even if I lost 40lbs. I don't have a ballerina's body (or training). I can wear a kimono, but I still won't be "living as a Japanese woman" woman because I'm not a Japanese woman. If this dress-up helps some, then I wish them the best, but I'm fed up with the incessant narcissism of these cult members. If you refer to yourself as trans, I don't care as that term is completely meaningless to me. Go be you and leave others alone. Gays and lesbians getting dragged into this was a huge mistake and time to cut the narcissistic loons loose.
I’ve completely lost sympathy as well and I fought for their rights and inclusion for decades. I too haven’t just known “trans” people, I’ve dated them and been friends with many for ages.
I think most gays and lesbians accept that many in society will never come to “affirm us” (deeply religious people, for example). It is their right to be able to say they believe homosexuality is a sin. Just as it is my right to say I don’t believe in God and reject religion. It is a cornerstone of democracy that we are all equal and have freedom of speech and belief.
Equal rights mean equal rights and that nobody’s rights are allowed to supersede the rights of another citizen. But this is not what trans activists have demanded from society - they have demanded that society say things like “trans women are women” when most people do not believe that humans can change sex; they have coerced many Western societies into believing in Gender Theory (an obscure philosophical belief with no basis in science) and those who do not or who question it are attacked and persecuted whilst they are given a pass for routinely issuing death threats against TERFs and saying truly vile and hateful things about others to the point of hate mongering; they show no respect for women’s rights or gay and lesbian rights; they show no respect for parental rights and have no hesitation to attack any parent, even left leaning, progressive ones as “bigoted” and “transphobic” if they do not immediately “affirm” their child’s trans identity as they encourage children to change the names they were given and to disassociate with any family member who doesn’t accept their new identities.
To earn and to be worthy of respect, one must respect others.
I’ve been saying it for years: it feels like an Orwellian nightmare where Big Brother controls thought and speech and we flush any dissenting opinions down the memory hole, along with everything we know. Right, women can have penises. Right, we should punish anyone who doesn’t agree with us or send them for reeducation.
That’s quite funny. Apparently they feel they deserve two slices.
Yes, IT IS 🥧 Pie.
One hundred thousand per cent.
I’ve only had one close relationship with someone who was trans. Trans activists do not want to ask me about him because they would probably cry and run away. This poor man had a sex change in the 80’s - full sexual reassignment, which at that time meant two years of therapy and a note from your psych saying you were good to go. It didn’t take long for him to regret his decision and start the devastating process of transitioning back to a man. What a disaster. This was someone who had also dedicated his life to vipassana meditation and is a deeply spiritual being, yet somehow that “feeling” was misconstrued as needing to mutilate his body. We all make mistakes.
To whom you are attracted sexually is purely subjective and therefore cannot reasonably be contested by an outside observer.
Where you decide to live your life on a spectrum of superficial, stereotypical male to female attributes (and we all do) is also purely subjective and similarly cannot be questioned.
However, your biological sex reflects an objective reality which cannot be changed by your subjective personal view and futile attempts to do so can result in serious health impacts to you as well as harms to members of the sex you are impersonating (primarily women).
Others who are grounded in objective reality should never be forced to accept your subjective version of your actual biological sex.
Finally, it's past time for the LGB community to separate themselves from the trans activists who are trying to take away the rights of women to fairness in sports and to privacy and safety in their restrooms, locker rooms and prisons. They also advocate for the chemical and surgical mutilation of children many of whom would grow up gay.
Their actions are evil and the
understandable negative reaction to the harm they are causing is spilling over to innocent people who are just going about their business, marrying and leading their lives.
Hear here, well said!👏🏻
I knew 'trans folk' as long ago as 1985. Realise now that two of the were profoundly damaged gay men and the third was your archetypal autogynephile. Thanks for sharing your story Gary. I was kind of riding the trans bus for a while and jumped off around three or four years ago. See if you can find Arty Morty's 'Circle of Horror' essay. On Substack a year or so ago. He deep dives into how these deluded people have a need to recruit others in order to sustain the delusion.
Yes to all of this especially the power of your last paragraph. So brilliantly stated.
Whoa. Thanks for writing, a valuable perspective.
I know trans people too and the reality is far too sad. One is no longer with us on this Earth. Thank you for this memoire and analysis.
I have been so frustrated in recent years, WANTING to buy that one, specific, favorite product -- but not being able to make myself go to the MAC counter. I've never had any problems like this before, but this one guy... sort of a low-effort trans dude, just ginormous glitter fake eyelashes flapping atop a bedazzled fabric face mask.... I couldn't stomach buying makeup from him. I didn't know it was a "thing" with MAC everywhere. I guess I'll stick to swearing off my MAC.
This hit me right in the feels. I'm not gay, but I work in a field with a lot of people on the spectrum. I have had several deep friendships with autistic AGP men just end because I tried to gently questioned whether their transition would fix their feelings of social inadequacy. If any of those people are reading this- please reach out. I genuinely care about you still.
Girls with a penis is a mental illness
Right?!
Damn you nailed it Gary.
I had posted in one of your previous posts that the minority group of activists within the larger LGBQT community where going to go to far and cause a pushback, the kind tvat would come after all in that community. Not because the heterosexual majority hated all gays but because there's so easy wat to separate the activists from the "leave me alone and I'll leave you alone" types. And now we're seeing the start of that.
Whether it was just a joke or not and later claimed a joke because of the negative reception it got, the San Francisco Gay Men's queen acted very stupidly and arrogantly with that song bragging about gaying up people's kids and how nothing could stop them. You don't go.afyer people's kids period.
Thankfully many non-activist types like gays against groomers have shown that not all are activists trying to do tgat kind of BS that the SFGM Choir was bragging about but tha's not going to be enough anymore. Many of you are going to need to hunker down and stay at of the line if fire as best as you can until the anger dies down. Most importantly is that the majority of you have got to expel from the larger community any if these trouble makers so they aren't able to protect themselves by hiding amongst the rest of you
Good luck
NOTE: UI composed the above on my phone while in line at my pharmacy thus the massive typos. I would correct it but I believe if you edit a post all the likes get reset so please excuse the verbal mess 😁
Yeah, “do you even know any trans people” has to be the dumbest response to my rejection of gender ideology.
My family tree, friend group and community as a whole are filled to the brim with every flavor of trans identifying person. This is the PNW and I don’t live under a rock. It would be easier to count up my kids’ friends who don’t identify as either trans or some flavor of queer than the “cishet normies”. Also, my sibling transitioned 20+ years ago and I was very supportive and protective of her. Part of my issue with gender ideology is seeing the toll medical transition is having on people I know and love.
Yeah, I knew one, once. What a piece of work. Drama queen to the max.