K.I.S.S.S. (Keep It Same-Sex, Stupid)
Hulu endorses conversion therapy for gay men...and no one cares
If you were going to make a dating show for gay men, it would seem pretty obvious that all the contestants would be same-sex attracted men, right?
Think again. In May, the (taxpayer-funded) BBC Three reality series ‘I Kissed a Boy’ premiered its sophomore edition in the UK, and it began airing in the USA on Disney-owned Hulu this month. [You know, ‘Pride Month’, in which we celebrate everything LGBTQ+.]
The second season (or ‘second series’, as the Brits say) features a female contestant who identifies as a gay man. Yes, you read that correctly. And this wasn’t done quietly; rather, it was announced with enthusiasm by the BBC and celebrated by the LGBTQ+ press. One wonders if this was the plan all along—gay guys couldn’t even get a second season of exclusively M2M dating. The Powers That Be couldn’t WAIT to add a ‘trans man’.
Here’s the gal and her bio from BBC’s website:
“I felt like a gay guy trapped in a woman’s body,” she said. And the producers said, “Sounds good to us!”
Now, we all know reality shows—particularly the dating variety—are television at its trashiest. But a lot of people watch these shows, so the influence they have should not be dismissed.
The show is called ‘I Kissed A Boy’ because it begins with the contestants being paired up and having to kiss immediately upon first meeting. (Reality shows are not known for subtlety.)
It begins with a kiss.
‘Just think of her as a guy!
Close your eyes and imagine you’re kissing Timothée Chalamet.
Have a drink or two or seven. Lose your inhibitions…this feels good, doesn’t it? This is what you want, isn’t it?
How do you know you don’t like women if you’ve never been with one?’
It’s not just conversion therapy, it’s promoting sex by deception. I would even go as far as calling it an endorsement of corrective rape.
Since the announcement of the second season, the show has caused an uproar in the UK, with many prominent voices lambasting the BBC.
Television writer and author of Gay Shame: The Rise of Gender Ideology and the New Homophobia, Gareth Roberts wrote:
There has been so much political blather about the practice of gay conversion therapy. But it is no exaggeration to say that I Kissed A Boy looks like actual conversion practice in reality. Gay contestants on the show might find themselves in a position where they feel pressured to disown their sexuality, courtesy of our wonderful state broadcaster. It is grotesque, and seems more homophobic than anything ever seen before on British TV.
LGB Alliance UK drafted a letter of complaint to the BBC, which you can read here.
Gay Men’s Network also wrote a letter of complaint, calling out the BBC for homophobia and conversion practices.
I was also glad to see a lot of pushback from Terf Island on X. Here are a few:
Jack Jewell contributed several posts on X and also has a great podcast episode devoted to the show:
The thing that’s so maddening about the whole affair is that it’s so…stupid. Who would have ever thought that gay men would have to someday make the argument that women. cannot. be. gay. men.
In an otherwise serious column, Josephine Bartosch humorously and candidly points out what Lars is obviously lacking:
If there’s one thing that defines gay men, it’s a fondness for willies. One might say it’s a defining characteristic. So when the BBC aired I Kissed a Boy — touted as the UK’s first gay dating show — and slipped in a woman who calls herself a man, the backlash was both completely predictable and absolutely justified.
To pretend—as the LGBTQIA+ enforcers want to—that we should NOT take into account the difference in men’s and women’s bodies is really a new level of insanity. Can we just take a minute to remember that all those times in pretty recent history when gay men were arrested, beaten, and killed, it wasn’t because people were soooo angry and disgusted about their love for Liza Minelli and ascots?! It was because of the things they did with each other’s bodies when they were naked.
Here is the question to ask, stated so perfectly:
Sadly, there are many ‘gay’ men who have decided not to just go along with all this, but to be OUTRAGED that the rest of us [actually] gay men refuse to accept ‘trans men’. I included this idiocy in my last post, but it’s worth sharing again:
Here’s some more mind-benders for ya:
‘But some gay men like trans men!!’ the transqueer activists scream. No. Speaking as a gay man: We do not. They point to the fact that none of the other participants on ‘I Kissed a Boy’ had a problem with Lars being one of the ‘Boys’. Which has an element of truth: Apparently, in the screening for casting, potential contestants were asked if they’d be open to dating a ‘trans man’. [The official statement from BBC: “All applicants are asked their dating preferences, and they are matched accordingly.”] This left 1. bisexual men, and 2. gay men who have been indoctrinated into believing they must accept women in their dating pool. (I suppose there is a third category—gay men who will say yes to anything just to be on television. The whores.) But what the producers have effectively done is eliminate any actual gay men from a show advertised as a show about gay men.
I was curious what would happen once this season of ‘I Kissed a Boy’ started airing in the US. I waited a week or so and sadly, I haven’t seen any complaints on X or elsewhere. If you try Googling phrases like ‘Hulu homophobia’ or ‘Hulu I Kissed a Boy homophobic’, etc., you get no hits. Either nobody is watching or nobody cares.
Overdue rant: While I am grateful for the work so many lesbians have been doing fighting gender ideology, I am continually frustrated with the state of gay men in this country. Nobody (besides myself and a few other Substackers and X users, you know who you are 😘) speaks up or fights back, no matter how bad things get. Gay men in America just keep taking abuse from the TQ+. I find it all discouraging, and frankly, pathetic. I am losing my patience.
Gay men are not into women, even women in extreme male drag. This should not be controversial to say! If we cannot even agree on that, we may as well give up. What’s the point anymore?!?
‘But what about Lars and ‘his’ feelings?’
It is not the job of gay men to validate her feelings.
If you care about Lars, don’t get mad at me. Get mad at the therapist who affirmed her delusion. Get mad at the doctors who pumped her full of toxic drugs and performed unnecessary surgeries on her body. Get mad at the NGO’s who feed her lies. Get mad at the television executives who are using her life as entertainment fodder, and will forget about her after her fifteen minutes of fame are over. Get mad at DEI, because this is ‘Inclusion’ taken to its ridiculous extreme. ‘You’re a gay man if you identify as one.’
She will always be female. It doesn’t matter how much testosterone she takes or how many surgeries she has to give her the simulacrum of a male body. It doesn’t matter how long she practices in front of a mirror standing in a masculine pose, walking with a strut, and perfecting her performance of what she believes a gay man is. It doesn’t matter how much facial hair she grows on her slender face. She will never be a man. Even if she really really really feels like she is one. She will never be a gay man.
Maybe we should all get mad at the way gay men have been inappropriately and excessively glamorized, romanticized, and celebrated. We just wanted acceptance…we didn’t want to be worshipped by young girls so they would want to grow up to BE us.
Get mad at queer theory invading schools and mindwarping children. Get mad at the likes of HRC, Glaad, and Stonewall, who have not just abandoned but completely screwed over the LGB in favor of an Anything Goes clusterfuck of sexualities and identities.
And speaking of which—what’s the point of having bisexual, pansexual, polysexual, or omnisexual if they’re not going to use them? Why do they have to intrude into gay men’s lives? There is even a term for people attracted to ‘trans’ —skoliosexual. If they want to have a reality show for people attracted to trans-identified men and women, have at it. But leave gay men alone.
PS: The show is hosted by Dannii Minogue, whose music I’ve been a fan of for a couple decades. When I read about the show on X, I expressed my disappointment at Minogue in a thread of 3 tweets starting here.
The theme song for ‘I Kissed a Boy’ is sung by Dannii. As I was writing this, I realized that the 'I' in 'I Kissed a Boy' is Lars. She got the starring role in the show. I propose a new theme song:
"Trans inclusivity" has become a rhetorical cudgel—a way to compel conformity rather than foster tolerance. The demand isn’t just to respect trans identities, but to accept them into categories where biological sex is essential, like same-sex attraction.
When gay men are told that rejecting a trans-identified female makes them bigoted, they’re being asked to deny the very basis of their sexuality. That’s not inclusion—it’s coercion masquerading as virtue.
Will we ever get to peak transanity?